The following writing and tips were done by a group of LOVE youth who have been hurt in their own homes or intimate relationships … we want young people to know that it isn't their fault and they are not alone. Surviving violence takes strength and courage… and if you have, that is exactly what you are…A SURVIVOR. Watching fighting and abuse between your parents, or having them or someone else you love abuse you, with their hands or words, is frightening and confusing. Unfortunately, it is the reality for too many children. Sometimes, writing can help deal with some of the emotions that abuse creates.

Get help to deal with the problems of trust, self-blame, fear, anxiety, powerlessness and self-destruction. With help you can be a secure, safe survivor. Abuse can have many different effects, but the common thread is low self-esteem and difficulty developing healthy, trusting relationships. If you remain isolated, the violence is not named and change cannot happen. You must speak out, you are not alone!! – Anonymous

• Surround yourself with positive people who understand your pain and past
• The only way to stop violence is to open your mind and everyone's mind. Reach out and tell someone you trust. Take that first step to your healing.
• Write down your ideas on what you feel is important in life, on the things that you enjoy and that keep you going when you are feeling very low.
• If you aren't comfortable talking or are scared and confused about how to go about it, write a letter about what you want to say and give it to someone you trust.
• If whoever you choose to tell doesn't believe you, tell someone else and continue until someone really listens.
• Write a letter to your abuser expressing fear and any emotions you feel towards them. Ask the questions that you need answers to. You don't have to send it but it can help release the emotions and hurt you are feeling.
• Join a support group for victims and survivors
• Look into getting one-on-one counseling. It can help rebuild your self confidence and support you in accepting and acknowledging what you have gone through and that it is not your fault.
• Write about someone in your family who has a strong effect on you in either a positive or negative way. Explain the effect this person has on your life.
• Call a helpline, children's aid society or your nearest hospital. Most helpline's are confidential so they will not ask for your name or number.

LOVE is creating a youth lead movement against violence. love's programs train and empower youth who have been touched by violence to utilize their voices and become champions against violence IN SCHOOLS and communities across canada.